But, it brings up a good point. In fact, I have a couple of good points tonight after 3 rather strong margaritas. So, it's weird to think that on my mom's 27th b-day, she was 10 days away from giving birth to a wonderful daughter. :) In 10 days, I will be 27. I can in no way possibly imagine having a kid right now. True, if Jonathan and I were married, it would be feasible. We could afford it and there would really be no reason not to have one or anything, but I seriously think I am way too selfish to have a child right now. Don't get me wrong, anyone who knows me knows that I do want to be a mommy one day and am looking forward to that day. BUT! Right now, I like my alone time, I like being able to go out and meet up with friends for a nice, leisurely 3 hour lunch then meet up with other friends a few hours later for happy hour (this is how my day off was spent today). Granted, one of the girls I met up for lunch with has 3 kids, all are aged 3 and under, and she was able to bring them. But, they are great kids and we want her to bring them (we actually beg...no lie), but she was older than me when she started (don't worry, won't give away her age) and I know that when I get to be her age, I will have a kid or two and will love it!!! Just as she does. But, she didn't start when she was 27 and is so thankful she waited. I have some friends that had little "oopsies" early in life, and it really takes a strong person to do that. You have to be willing to give up a lot of selfishness to be able to have a child. My girlfriends and I tonight were discussing how we are just not there yet. We are all going to be 27 within the next couple of months, and we are all in that same boat. Really, if we had a kid at this age, it wouldn't be all that weird to the general public. But to us, it does feel weird right now. In some ways, I guess we just don't feel that we are old enough to be in that spot yet. But all of us do want kids one day. It's just weird growing up, you know? Becoming an adult is such a paradox...you spend 18-22 years wanting and dying to become a "grown up" with your own money and not having to answer to your parents if you don't want to, but then when you actually get there...you don't feel that you yet have the maturity to do so.
Which brings me to my next point. Maturity. I know that I am a very mature and responsible adult. I bought a house at the age of 24 due to good financial planning (a lot on my parents part...but trust me, I did take note!), I have a very nice new car, I have absolutely zero debt and do not live beyond my means...I'm not trying to brag by any means, but my point is, I still feel like I am a child! I have no idea why. My mom found a picture of me from 2 years ago. In the grand scheme of things, it wasn't a bad picture at all. Yes, I was drinking in it. Yes, I had a cigarette in my mouth in it (BTW, I do NOT smoke! Just to clear that up...but when I drink, yes, I do enjoy one every once in a while. Not so much anymore, but 2 years ago, I still did.). Really, it's not that bad and she and I both know that. But, I spent the entire day feeling like I was going to be grounded when I got home! I am freaking 26!!! Almost 30!!! (GAG!) But, I feel like a child at times still. It's not my mom's fault at all...she treats me like an adult and did not lecture me about it at all. She actually made a joke of it. But this is that paradox I am talking about. I felt 16 all over again and actually was scared of what my mom was going to say! It's so funny and weird. Anyway, this is not at all my point on maturity. My point was being that girlfriend A was telling us she got an awesome promotion at work last week and girlfriend L was telling us she has this wonderful opportunity that will help her with her Masters degree! And, I am looking to open my own business one day...soon. I do feel that overall, we are still very young girls (yeah, ok, we are "women"...but at times I feel like a girl still) but are accomplishing grown up things! I know people that are slipping down the slippery slopes and on the wrong paths in life...and they are our same age. My point is, I had this realization tonight that my girlfriends and I are much more mature than I feel like we deserve to be. Am I the only one that has this weird feeling about growing up like this? Or am I completely normal and will hopefully grow out of it? There are times I get home at night and still get this overwhelming feeling that I have homework to do. I started school at age 2 and went for 20 years, so it's probably just such a habit to me and that's why I get that feeling...but it's weird to think that I have been out of school for 5 years now and still feel like I should be studying for something! So, I concluded tonight that these girlfriends are the types I need to keep around...mature, ambitious, gorgeous, outgoing, going somewhere in life, NO DRAMA! And maybe there are others that need to go? I don't know. Just thinking out loud.
Anyway, the art show last night was totally fun and I ended up hanging out with 3 former co-workers that I love like brothers (and Jonathan really likes hanging out with these guys, too). The artist was Joey Seeman and it was his anti-consumerism work. Really good with a touch of humor. Too bad I didn't get the 70s cartoon references...but hey! I was born in '81...it was before my time! We stayed out way too late...well, not that late (12:30am), but way too many drinks late! LOL! I haven't really done that in a long, long time (I'll admit, I was a pretty good little partier not all too long ago... with girlfriends A and L, no less!). It was a blast and I love, love, love the art district on Exposition. Way fun!
I am trying to figure out how to post pics on this...so I leave you with a pic of my Mr. Personality cat watching tv (apparently contemplating a diet) and playing with the candle (our house smelled like burning cat fur for days!). Enjoy!
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